Is a habitual or characteristic mental attitude that determines how you will interpret and respond to situations. True strength of mind comes from a combination of awareness, focus, and resiliency. A strong mindset is what allows you to stay focused on your intentions instead of negative thoughts. It helps you understand that struggle is impermanent and won't derail your success. Mindsets are created from the distinctions we are able to make about our experiences. 

''The mind has a powerful way of attracting things that are in harmony with it, good and bad.''

'' Mind is a flexible mirror; adjust it to see a better world.'' 

''once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.''

'' Happiness has to do with your mindset, not with outside circumstances.''



 Types of Mindsets

                             Growth Mindset                             Self-Efficacy Mindset     


                                                  Sense of Belonging               Relevance

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1. Instead of bombarding ourselves with an onslaught of negative comments, try to focus on the more positive aspects of yourself. This could include, PHYSICAL, PRACTICAL, PERSONAL, EMOTIONAL, ATTRIBUTES or things you are good at, PERSONAL ACHIEVEMENTS..

2. Try asking members of your family, co-workers, and friends, how they would describe you. This may reveal a number of POSITIVE statements about you which are surprising and /  and / and uplifting. 

3. Write down POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS about yourself.

 4. Pay more attention to your thoughts and feelings. When you are aware of these being critical, try challenging them or using THOUGHT STOPPING TECHNIQUES.

5. Practice seeing yourself in particular situations when you feel CONFIDENT and good about who you are and the circumstances you are in. you are feeling comfortable. Feedback from others is POSITIVE. People are paying attention to you. You are maintaining good eye contact. .Feed as much information into this exercise as possible. Pay attention to your body language and how you converse. Make sure you CHOOSE clothes to make the most of your physical attributes and feel CONFIDENT in them. Do you feel better wearing makeup and perfume? (A question for the girls!) Remember how it feels to have a stronger sense of SELF-WORTH, to get POSITIVE FEEDBACK from others, and from your own reaction.

6. You can proceed to use the lessons learned from this exercise to go into the situation for real. You can enter it from a more CONFIDENT and less threatening stance.

7. Try not to leave a situation because of feelings of discomfort or anxiety. This will only increase your fear of a situation at a higher level and give you negative feedback.

This can be difficult to do.

It may be helpful to remember that if you suffer from any symptoms of anxiety these are only an exaggerated form of how we all feel from time to time. They cause discomfort but are not life-threatening. Placed in a difficult situation, your symptoms any increase but they will reach a peak and come down again. Try not to be afraid of this feeling and run away from the situation. If you need to, use BREATHING exercises to take control of the situation. (Please see article re BREATHING RETRAINING TECHNIQUES.)If you manage your situation effectively in this way, you will get POSITIVE feedback from the experience resulting in you being less fearful in the future.

Alternatively, PLAN ahead.

Think of what would make you feel more comfortable by REHEARSING the situation in your head. This may alert you to any possible difficulties. It is then your task to generate ways of overcoming these difficulties.

It can be useful to decide beforehand that you are only going to stay somewhere for an hour. Giving yourself a time limit may make it easier for you to relax and stay in a situation. Even if you are enjoying yourself, it still makes sense to leave at the time you promised yourself and when things are going well. This will ensure you achieve POSITIVE feedback.

 8. Remember how you felt when you last heard a friend say something POSITIVE about you or when they did something which made you feel appreciated and liked.

Spend less time concentrating on negative thoughts about yourself. Instead, be more focused on others.

Do or say things to others that will make them feel good. You will in turn get POSITIVE feedback from this boosting your SELF ESTEEM.

Try bringing in your neighbor's wheelie bin, buying someone flowers, paying someone a compliment, inviting someone to lunch,  or simply saying thank you more often!

 9. Put more FUN into yours.

Share a joke. Try recalling something which has made you LAUGH heartily. Watch a good comedy. Get out some old photographs. It is even better if you can share the experience with a friend. Share the LAUGHTER!

 10. Get involved in some type of activity that will raise your CONFIDENCE. People often resist the suggestion to attend a confidence-building class. There is a place for them but it is perhaps not the best or the healthiest option, to put people together with others who have the same difficulty.

Instead, try one of the following:

  Join a drama, music, art, singing, or art class, take up a contact sport      and , challenge yourself by commencing, rock climbing, canoeing, diving, etc.

You will benefit from having set yourself a GOAL or CHALLENGE and by the opportunity to express yourself in a different way.

You will definitely have something new and interesting to talk about.

If you have a family, you may choose an ACTIVITY that you can do together such as cycling. Dance has the added benefit of being good FUN and brings you into contact with other people. SKIPPING can help increase bone density so is great for all of us over 40 Beware you are more likely to do this on your own. You could however go for a really nice walk somewhere and have your ropes in your pocket.

If you find it difficult to fit EXERCISE into your day:

Try WALKING instead of using transport.

 .If you must drive, park a little way from your place of work. If you take a bus, get off a few stops from where you  need to. Use stairs, not the lift.

If you have a sedentary job, make a point of getting out of your chair regularly and taking a WALK in the building. Have a brisk twenty-minute WALK at lunchtime. Try to get others ROPED in   Too!

 This will offer the opportunity to make a new group of friends. You will have a new shared interest and a sense of camaraderie. You may need to trust and be trusted by others. You will have the opportunity to give  and receive POSITIVE feedback and have


11. Exercise is useful in enhancing SELF ESTEEM and will also benefit you by lowering your state of arousal. This means that more stress will be required for you to be affected by it. Increased muscle tone can help you feel more confident with how you look. Pick an exercise to meet your specific needs.

12. Stop comparing yourself with others. You will only come out of this disfavourably. Stop judging others. More importantly-Stop judging yourself!



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1. Have goals

 Being more efficient with your time is irrelevant if you don't know how you want to spend it. In managing time, the compass is more important than the clock. Know where you want to go and spend your time on the things that get you there.

 Some people spend energy trying to be more efficient without first doing what's important: setting goals. It's like being lost on your way to a new city. Driving faster doesn't help if you are going in the wrong direction. Figure out what direction to go in and head that way wholeheartedly.

 Once you've prepared it, your list of goals will reveal what is important to you.

2. Analyze how you spend your time

 It is always good to know how you're spending your time right now. You can track this by setting a timer to go off every 15 minutes; whenever it sounds, write down exactly what you are doing. Alternatively, divide your day into 15-minute blocks and record each activity you do.

Once you have your time increments, examine them. How do they compare to your goals? Are you spending time where your priorities are?

 3. Keep a to-do list

 This sounds too simple, but it really is the basis of all time-management systems. Your to-do list can be electronic, on fancy paper, notepad or google doc. The key is to have everything you want to accomplish on one list.

4. Prioritize your list

Once you have the list, determine which are the important items. Mark these with a highlighter, a red pen, or in any other way that makes them stand out.

 I sometimes find my to-do list is too big. Every item on the list calls out "pay attention to me!", even though most of them weren't highlighted as important. In these cases, I take a blank sheet of paper and cover my to-do list and write down only the three or four most important items. Those are the ones to focus on.

 5. Control procrastination

 I have developed one effective habit that has helped break out of of procrastination: "Do the worst thing first." At the beginning of every day, I do the one task that is causing me the most stress, and that I haven't been getting done. Sometimes I just give it a quarter of an hour — based on the theory that I can stand just about anything for 15 minutes. Frequently it is this short thrust that breaks me through.

 If I still find myself procrastinating, I stop to think of my reasons for setting a goal. To create extra motivation to complete a task, I strengthen the reasons why it should be done. Similarly, many people reward themselves for completing a job.

 6. Organize

Organization and time management go hand in hand. I find that I get important things done when I have all the tools I need to perform the job.

 The opposite of organization — chaos, clutter, disorganization — generally leads to busy work. If your desk is piled high, every piece of paper says "look at me." You can end up doing a lot of work without ever getting to the important stuff.

7. Delegate

 One way to expand your time is to get others to help you with it. The method to delegation is to hand off any tasks that someone else can do significantly faster or more easily than you can.

If you're protesting that you don't have anyone working directly for you to whom you can delegate tasks, no problem. Consider delegating to a peer, a superior, a supplier, or even a customer. Treat delegation like networking: who in your network would be best for the job?

 In some cases you will need to invest up-front to train someone so he or she can take over a task from you. The long-term savings are usually worth the up-front time and costs.

 After delegation, remember to be thankful and grateful. You might think people would resent being delegated to, but exactly the opposite is true. People like to be asked, especially if it is to do something that they're good at.

8. Master efficiency techniques

 The best techniques I have found is "The Power of While." What can you do while you drive? While you walk? While you clean? While you watch TV? I am a huge audio tape advocate and frequently listen to a podcast while I am doing something else.

9. It's OK to say no

Saying "No" can be the most powerful time tool you can master. When someone asks you to do something, ask yourself how important this is. Does it help you achieve your goals? Is this a task you would be better at than most people? Don't always look for reasons to get out of things, but be strategic about what you take on.

 This doesn't mean that the first ting I say is no when asked to help out. But if I do say no, I am always try to be polite and tactful, and try to suggest someone else who would do the job well.

 10. Focus

 Committing one hundred percent to focus and concentration on one task at a time can be very powerful. Eliminate distractions. Focus on the task. When you're properly organized and prepared, when your energy and power are high, you can often complete a task in 20% of the time it would take when you're distracted or open to interruption.

 11. Build your efficiency storehouse

High efficiency is not possible if you don't look after yourself. Eat right, exercise, sleep well and drink moderately. Mom knew best: all the things she said were good for you just happen to be best for your efficiency, too.

 I also believe meditation can be a great way of building your efficiency. It could be transcendental meditation, Zen, or just finding a way to get into a relaxed state that lets you focus on the task you have to do. No matter how you do it, recharging your batteries gives you the power to do more during the times you need to be at your best.

 12. Take care of yourself

 It isn't possible to be "on" all the time. Take the time you need to look after yourself — body and soul — so that you can reach peak efficiency when you need to. Have a list of things you like to do. Find out what activities energize you, and spend more time doing them. This will give you the power and energy to be more productive when you return to work.

 Finally, a word of advice. If after reading this far you're feeling a bit overwhelmed, I suggest you go back to Rule 1 and add peace (contentment) to your list of goals. Time management is not about adding stress; it is about giving you the time to be the person you really want to be.